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Tuesday, March 31, 2009
Glimpse of the Past V
About Gifts
"If only an announcement of the marriage or invitation to the ceremony is received, no gift is necessary. Wedding gifts should not be presented in person. Gifts sent before the ceremony should be addressed to the bride: after the ceremony to the bride and groom. To each person sending a gift, the bride should write a note of thanks before the wedding. If she delays her thanks until after the wedding, she must then write promptly. Only a written note on personal paper will suffice-printed or engraved cards of thanks are improper. Gifts can be of silver, china, glassware, linen or perhaps small pieces of furniture. A visit to the Gift Consultant at the store where the bride has registered her patterns will be invaluable in the choice of a suitable gift. It is not uncommon for most brides to receive some duplicate gifts-and unless they are engraved specifically for the bride's use, it is quite correct to exchange them. She should, of course, inform the giver of what she has selected in exchange. Many brides prefer to hold a tea or luncheon shortly before the wedding when intimate friends are invited to see the trousseau and wedding gifts. The cards of the senders may be removed but the bride should be certain to keep a record in her book. Checks should not be displayed, but a plain card with the amount of the check could be used in it's place. This is doubly important if the custom of a wedding day display of gifts is followed."
Photo courtesy of Patrick Q
Monday, March 30, 2009
Glimpse of the Past IV
Division of Expenses
"The bride's parents provide the wedding invitations, cards, trousseau, all floral or other decorations, music, fees for use of the church, transportation for the bridal party to and from church, everything for the wedding breakfast or reception, the bride's gifts to the bridesmaids and a wedding gift to the bride-groom. For double ring ceremonies, the bride purchases the ring for the bride-groom. The bride's engagement and wedding rings, her personal gift, license, clergyman's and sexton's fees, gifts to the best man and ushers, and the bride's bouquet are provided by the bridegroom. He may also provide the bridesmaid's flowers if he wishes. Immediately after the ceremony, he must assume all expenses of his wife, including transportation to the reception or breakfast and all costs of the wedding trip."
Friday, March 27, 2009
Glimpse of the Past III
The Formal Wedding
The fully formal wedding is usually a church wedding, though it may be held in the home, club or hotel. Naturally it involves more expense and planning. Services of the clergyman and use of the church must first be obtained. The organist, choir, soloist, or other music must be arranged. Floral decorations must be decided upon and florist contracted. Transportation to and from church must be provided. Every detail must be perfected as far ahead as possible. That is why a rehearsal is so essential to the success of a formal wedding. It will bring to light any flaws in planning. At the rehearsal all persons having an active part in the ceremony are instructed by some fully informed person and clergyman. The bride-to-be is represented in the rehearsal by a "stand-in," while she and her mother stand by and help direct proceedings. After the rehearsal it is customary for one of the engaged couple to give a small party for the attendants.
Photocredit: Paul Noll Family
Thursday, March 26, 2009
A Glimpse of the Past II
Today's second piece is on The Informal Wedding
"The wedding should be in keeping with the circumstances of the bride's parents. Informal weddings are usually home weddings. Their simplicity and friendliness make them charming affairs, if they are well arranged. Since the guest list is necessarily smaller, they are more private than church weddings. Decorations for the home wedding may be lavish or simple. A temporary altar or a flower-banked corner of a large room makes an attractive setting for the ceremony. A harp, organ, piano or even a phonograph with special records may provide appropriate background music. If the bride's parents have a beautiful lawn or garden, the wedding may be solemnized out-of-doors. Simple weddings may, of course, be held in a church, in one of the rooms of the church or in the clergyman's study or home. In such weddings, the decorations, if any, are simple and the wedding party small. It is improper to hold the wedding at the bridegroom's home. If the bride is without parents or near relatives, the marriage should take place in a church or rectory-although the reception may be held in the bridegroom's home."
Wednesday, March 25, 2009
A Glimpse of the Past
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My mother-in-law came across a 1955 booklet of The Etiquette of the Engagement and Wedding sent to her sister-in-law when she was engaged. It is from Keepsake Diamond Rings, founded by A.H. Pond Company out of NYC, and edited by Modern Bride Magazine. There is so many lovely and old fashioned tidbits of information, I wish I could share the whole booklet with you, but decided, naturally, upon the "Etiquette of Planning" to be blogged in 5 parts. The first segment starts today, but not with a little prep, straight from the booklet. "All wedding plans and arrangements are made by the bride-to-be and her parents. They may consult the girl's fiance if they choose, but responsibility for all the details rests with them."
The Time
"After the day is set, the hour of the wedding should be considered. This is determined by the wishes of the bride and bridegroom, and the convenience of the wedding party-there is no set rule. The time of the wedding may be determined by church requirements or by the hour when the bridal couple must depart on their wedding trip. In general, afternoon or evening is the most popular time for elaborate and formal weddings. Morning weddings are often more simple affairs and are followed by a wedding breakfast and a reception, if the bride desires."
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